There is a phrase I have heard whose words made an incredible impact on my heart. I cannot forget these words...they keep coming back to me...haunting me...as words that are so true...so foundational...that they could, unfortunately, be spoken by countless women throughout history. I had to find an outlet for them.
"I cannot compete with lust."
*words spoken by a woman whose heart was shattered
by the discovery and gruesome realization that her lover's eyes
have been seduced by other bodies*
As I contemplate the impact of her words...it's amazing to me just how piercing it is to wrestle with the fact of the lust of men for more. No matter how beautiful you are...how kind you are...no matter how perfect your figure is...or how all around perfect you are...if your husband does not control his own eyes and thoughts, it simply doesn't matter. He will always want something (or someone) else. He will stray mentally, emotionally, physically...or all three. He will never be satisfied nor content.
How often do we, as women, believe the lie that if we could just be the right height or weight...wear the right clothes...have the right hair, nails, makeup...have the right sized chest...(insert any other obsession here)...that he would not stray? We spend our lives (and countless amounts of money) pursuing that dream of looking "just right." And yet, regardless of our best efforts...it all fades anyway.
The problem is not what a woman looks like...it's what the man desires most. It's a heart issue...it always has been.
Yet, we are not without someone to defend us...a "knight in shining armor" to rescue us when the men become dragons. Our Father sees and knows...and has something to say about beauty and lust. His Word lasts forever and He will make the final judgment.
"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate." Proverbs 31:30-31
The entire fifth chapter of Proverbs speaks of about the dangers of lust. Click here if you want to read it for yourself. I love how it tells a man to rejoice in the wife of his youth and to be ever captivated by her love.
Proverbs 12:4a says this, "A wife of noble character is her husband's crown..." and yet, how many men care more about having "eye candy" on their arm than a woman of good character? Silly question, I know...but I am still sorting my thoughts...
Proverbs also declares, "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies."
I just love the book of Proverbs! So much priceless treasure in those pages! : )
I will probably never understand why the words of a man can pierce a woman's soul to it's depths...or jettison her into the heights of joy...depending upon what mood he is in.
Oh to be able to take a solid, consistent stand on the foundation of Truth God has provided for me. He loves me and finds me captivatingly beautiful regardless of what my temporary body looks like. I need to keep this in the forefront of my mind and heart when the lies of men threaten to destroy me. And I need to remind my sisters and friends of their true, unfading beauty so they can withstand the storm of lies that assult them to the deepest core. They are beautiful and I don't want them to forget! : )