When the Lies Come
originally written 26-31 Aug 07
posted 1 Sep 07
photo by: Shirley/Suffolk/Apr 2007
Depression and loneliness is no respecter of persons.  This is an enemy that attacks rich & poor, the well-known and the unknown, the beautiful and the homely.

I wrote these words to a friend recently:  “How can someone feel this lonely when surrounded by people?  How can a heart feel so unloved when it knows that there are many who love it?  What madness is this?”

The madness is what happens when the pain we are feeling gets twisted by the lies of an enemy that never sleeps.

When the lies come

My heart is so heavy today (28 Aug 07). My stomach is twisted in knots.  We have just received news of a recent suicide of someone that we knew.  The relationship wasn’t a close one…but your heart struggles to accept that this person with whom you shared a laugh with could have given up so easily…so finally.  All the things you wish you’d said to them.  All the ways you wonder if you could have done something more to help them…to ease the pain that they were trying to escape.  All of it is for naught…since there is nothing more now that can be done.

The ripples of anguish and heartache that suicide leaves behind reach further out than anyone can possibly imagine.   This action hurts far more than the person who has given up on life.

Yet, when the lies reach out of the darkness to grasp your heart and wrench it into bits and pieces…it’s hard to think that anyone could really care how much pain is being experienced.

I have been thinking a lot about depression lately.  Thinking about the lies that whisper in the dark to rob us of joy…and, if left alone to work their power, they can rob someone of their very will to live.  But what is there to do about all this?  How do we combat the lies that we don’t even know are destroying the person beside us?  How do we combat these lies when they creep into our own hearts and minds and begin their destructive work?  What hope do we have against this silent, yet sometimes deadly, enemy?

TRUTH.  Truth is the only weapon that is strong enough to stand against the lies that haunt us.  Here are just a few examples (there are many more that won’t fit here)…

The lie says:  “You will never amount to anything.”

God’s Word says: 
“'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'"  (Jeremiah 29:11)

The lie says:  “I have no one to defend me.  No one will protect me.”

God’s Word says:  
“A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all”  (Psalm 34:19)
The Spirit helps us in our weakness.  We do not know what we ought to pray, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groans that words cannot express.”  (Romans 8:26-27)
Are not two sparrows sold for a penny?  Yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from the will of your Father.  And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.  So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”  (Matthew 10:29-31)
The lie says:  “If you are not part of the elite, you don’t matter.”

God’s Word says:  
“The Lord does not look at the things man looks at.  Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”  (1 Samuel 16:7b)
You are a child of God…how much more elite can you ask for?  
“Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God and everyone who loves the father loves his child as well.”  (1 John 5:1)

The lie says:  “No one listens to me…no one cares what I say, think or feel.”

God’s Word says:  
“Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you.  You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”  (Jeremiah 29:12-13)
 Again…these are Christ’s own words:  “Are not two sparrows sold for a penny?  Yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from the will of your Father.  And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.  So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”  Matthew 10:29-31

The lie says:  “There is no hope.”

There are at least 39 verses I found that speak of hope.  Here are my favorite ones:

God’s Word says:  
“There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off.” (Proverbs 23:18)
“'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'"  (Jeremiah 29:11)
“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”  (Romans 15:13)
“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”    (1 Corinthians 13:6-7)
“But the eyes of the Lord are on those who fear him, on those whose hope is in his unfailing love, to deliver them from death and keep them alive in famine.”  (Psalm 33:18-19)

The lie says:  “No one loves you.”

God’s Word says: 
“I have loved you with an everlasting love.”  (Jeremiah 31:3)
“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”  (1 Peter 5:7)

The lie says:  “No one will stay with me if they knew the real me.”

God’s Word says: 
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you...”  (Jeremiah 1:5)
“Never will I leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5)

The lie says:  “You are worthless.”

God’s Word says:  You are worth dying for.  
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world but to save the world through him.”  (John 3:16,17)

The lies says:  “If I am not perfect, I will be abandoned.”

God’s Word says:  
“…neither death, nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”  (Romans 8:38-39)

There are many promises in scripture for those that follow God.  All are true, because God does not lie. 
 “…a faith that knowledge resting on the hope of eternal life, which God, who does not lie, promised before the beginning of time…” (Titus 1:2)
The Certainty of God:
When God made his promise to Abraham, since there was no one greater for him to swear by, he swore by himself, saying, ‘I will surely bless you and give you many descendants.’  And so after waiting patiently, Abraham received what was promised.
Men swear by someone greater than themselves, and the oath confirms what is said and puts an end to all argument.  Because God wanted to make the unchanging nature of his purpose very clear to the heirs of what was promised, he confirmed it with an oath.  God did this so that, by two unchangeable things in which it is impossible for God to lie, we who have fled to take hold of the hope offered to us may be greatly encouraged.  We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.  It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain, where Jesus, who went before us, has entered on our behalf.  He has become a high priest forever, in the order of Melchizedek.”  (Hebrews 6:13-20)

Life is like a roller coaster ride.  There are great moments of joy and peace.  There are also moments of great pain and turmoil.  When the pain comes we must be careful of which words we will believe so that we are not ensnared by the father of lies.  He cannot rob us of the gift we’ve been given (eternal life in Christ Jesus which was ours from the moment we first believed)…but he does seek to rob us of our joy and testimony so that we cannot share what we know with those who need it most.  I know it may sound silly to some who are reading this, but Satan is real and a very real threat.  If we are to believe what God says than we must also believe that Satan is an enemy bent on our destruction (as scripture teaches). To ignore an enemy at the gates and fail to prepare to defend ourselves is foolishness.
God does not waste words.  There is a reason we are told to:
“Be self-controlled and alert.  Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.  Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings.”  (1 Peter 5:8-9)
This command is followed by a promise (I love it when He does that! :D  ).
“And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.” (1 Peter 5:10)

When we are faced with words that we know to be lies, we must hold on to what we know is true.  Cling to the words of life when the storms come and shake the very foundation of your world…and trust that when the storm has passed, you will remain and be rescued.  Satan would have us believe that we cannot stand against him…but God tells us different:
“Submit yourselves, then, to God.  Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” (James 4:7)
On our own, we may not have the strength…but we are not alone and when we have God as our source of strength, we most certainly can stand!

We will have victory!
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